Why Lighthouse Parents Should Teach Their Kids Meditation

Learn about lighthouse parenting and meditation

what are lighthouse parents

Over the past few decades there’s been a seemingly endless amount of parenting “trends” to choose from. From authoritative parenting, tiger parenting, gentle parenting, to being a “helicopter” parent, and a host of others, their is no shortage of  parenting styles and media experts who know “the right way” to raise kids. For most parents, this overload of well-meaning but over-the-top advice leads to burnout and confusion. For kids, it means they’re navigating childhood through the lens of trendy parenthood styles which most likely do not support them or meet their individual needs.

Now, there’s a new term on the block: lighthouse parenting. But what is a lighthouse parent and what does it have to do with meditation?

What is a lighthouse parent?

A lighthouse parent is a style of parenting that falls in the middle of parenting styles. It’s not a tiger parent, helicopter parent, free-range, or gentle parent; instead it’s right in the middle. Lighthouse parents blend techniques from many different parenting styles and emphasize being a steady leader for their children to look up to, and providing guidance and support when needed.

Coined in 2015 by Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg, lighthouse parenting is not supposed to be “trendy”, but rather a philosophy on how to raise confident, resilient kids. 

Benefits of lighthouse parenting

Every family dynamic is different and lighthouse parenting may not be for every child. For many families though, lighthouse parenting makes sense, and offers a lot of benefits, for parents and kids:
  • Increases confidence: When kids develop skills to navigate challenges on their own, they feel a sense of pride and confidence in themselves. 
  • Builds independence: Lighthouse parenting enables kids to learn how to be more independent, preparing them for success in situations they’ll face throughout their lives.
  • Encourages coping skills: A key tenet of lighthouse parenting is that parents act like a lighthouse, offering support and guidance, but not fully solving their children’s problems. This allows kids to problem solve, develop coping skills, and learn how to better manage their own feelings.
  • Fosters open communication: Lighthouse parenting helps support healthy relationships between parents and children. When children view their parents as supportive figures, it’s more likely they will feel comfortable communicating their feelings and reaching out when they need guidance or help.
  • Less parental stress: Parents who practice a lighthouse approach may feel less stressed because they don’t intervene for every minor problem their child faces. In time, this parenting philosophy may help parents feel more relaxed and reduce feelings of parental overwhelm.

How meditation fits in

In many ways, meditation is like a lighthouse. It’s a practice you can turn to wherever you are and whenever you need it, it’s calming presence just a moment away. It helps you build skills within your self, like encouraging resilience and boosting emotional regulation. Meditation can also help you navigate life’s challenges more easily, like a lighthouse guiding the way.
 
For little ones, meditation can be instrumental in helping them develop self-confidence and coping skills they will use for the rest of their lives. Meditation practices help children practice acceptance, improves their emotional regulation and ability to problem solve, and equips them with the ability to feel better, wherever they are. For lighthouse parents, meditation is a research-proven way to promote mental and physical well-being from a young age, helping kids to feel and be their very best.

What is meditation?

Meditation, a centuries-old practice is, quite simply, the practice of focusing attention for a period of time. Many myths about meditation still persist, like having to sit still for hours on end or having zero thoughts. The good news is, these are just myths, and fortunately there are many different types of meditation, which suit different needs and preferences, and can also be modified for every child.
 
The common thread throughout the different styles of meditation is focused attention, or the act of consciously keeping your attention on something. This might be your breath, the beat of a drum, or a mantra or affirmation. For example, in a moving meditation, your attention is focused on how the movement feels throughout your body and noticing all the sensations of movement. In this example, your attention is focused on how your body feels.
 
In a body scan meditation, the focus is on noticing, without judgement, the way your body feels. In doing so, you might notice tension and then release it, which promotes feelings of ease and relaxation. When your attention wanders, and it will, that’s okay. The practice of meditation is about noticing your attention has wavered, and bringing it back to your chosen focal point.
 

Can kids meditate?

Kids can absolutely meditate and research shows it’s beneficial, too. Much like adult meditation practices, kids will get the most out of meditation when they practice the types that work for them. A child who loves stories will most likely enjoy guided story meditations and using their imagination to grasp meditation concepts. A child who enjoy movement may find a moving meditation more engaging. Like any practice for kids, it’s about making time spent in meditation relevant and interesting for them, and then making it part of their daily or weekly routine.
 

How to start a meditation routine for kids

 Starting a meditation routine is easy and like learning any new skill, its benefits will accumulate over time. There are a few steps to creating an effective meditation routine for your little one:
  1. Try different meditation styles: There are many meditation styles that kids can choose from. Guided story and moving meditation are two of the most popular for kids, but try different styles and see which one(s) your child likes the best.
  2. Find the time your child meditates best: Some kids may enjoy an affirmation practice in the mornings, while others may enjoy resetting after school or relaxing before bedtime. 
  3. Explore different meditation locations: This may be a place like their bedroom, a calming corner, or playroom. It’s important to make their meditation space free of distractions and a place they feel comfortable. In time, your child will learn to meditate anywhere, but while they’re learning, it can be helpful to practice in the same space.
 

Wee Meditate

Whether you identify with lighthouse parenting or not, meditation is one of the best ways to help your child develop resiliency, confidence, and boost mental health. Wee Meditate is here to support you and your child on your meditation journey. Start your plan and see how your child will benefit from meditation. Ready to get started? Try listening to: